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Depression in Kids Doesn’t Always Look Like Sadness

Reviewed by Dr. Nicole Gregorio, DNP, APRN, PMHNP-BC

Depression in children looks nothing like what many imagine when we think of classic depression. Crying quietly in his bedroom doesn’t happen much; instead, he may yell, complain about stomach problems, or withdraw from peers. Trust your instincts if you feel that something is amiss with your kid and you’re in Las Vegas.

When you think of depression, you probably think about feeling very sad, withdrawing into oneself, and crying a lot. Child depression looks nothing like this. Without having developed the emotional language skills needed to articulate their internal state, they simply suffer inside or express themselves in unusual ways. This misalignment makes sense. Child depression symptoms continue to go undetected by parents, educators, and pediatricians alike.

Months may pass while you blame everything on raging hormones, stubbornness or a bad stage. Your child’s baseline personality undergoing a prolonged period of drastic change is unlikely to be just a passing phase. Knowing what is truly going on underneath is key to helping your child recover. If your child has undergone a transformation and you cannot understand the cause, it is a red flag worth looking into.

  • Anger, Not Sadness: Kids and teenagers display signs of depression through anger, irritability, and frustration instead of crying. It’s important to recognize this.
  • Pain Is Real: Unexplained physical pain such as stomachaches, headaches, and general body pain indicates something is going on emotionally. Do not ignore it.
  • There Are Resources Available: The Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is a phone call away at 988, while Arbor Wellness Mental Healthcare offers support close by.

Depression in adults comes with sadness and despair. Depression in children? Anger, irritability, and rage. Depression makes your child feel completely out of control of everything happening to them, causing endless frustration. Rather than wallowing in sadness, your child reacts with rage to the smallest thing — snapping, slamming doors, fighting with brothers and sisters.

  • Explosive Anger: Little irritation triggers big outbursts.
  • Impatient Rage: Growing increasingly frustrated even by the smallest issues, such as homework or video games.
  • Temper Tantrums: Transitioning from indifference to explosive anger within moments.

Your child’s irritability may very well be more than it seems to be on the surface level. This irritability can be their coping mechanism, covering up their feelings of hopelessness. Once you know this, how you handle it changes completely.

Kids will experience their feelings physically long before they understand what those feelings mean emotionally. If your child seems to find herself frequently at the school nurse’s office complaining about physical ailments, it may well be anxiety and/or depression driving her there – and all of these complaints are legitimate. They stem directly from the overwhelming mind-body link that exists during childhood development years.

Some of the most common complaints seen here include:

  • Morning stomachaches occurring every time that school bus pulls up outside.
  • Ongoing headaches without any medical explanation found on repeat exam.
  • Sleepy and tired all the time despite receiving enough restful sleep at night.

Approaching such problems strictly from a physical perspective ignores the very cause behind the complaints altogether.

Losing interest in activities your child loves is a sure sign that something serious is going on. The quiet drop-off of soccer practice, painting classes, or video games means losing touch with happiness and finding relief in being alone in their room with nothing but their computer screen.

  • Quitting hobbies and refusing to seek other opportunities
  • Withdrawing from close friendships, responding minimally to texts
  • Detaching themselves from family activities and home life

Seeing your child pull away from all the things that used to bring joy to their life is painful. Bringing them slowly back into family time in ways that don’t overwhelm them helps fill the gap between them and their loved ones.

The effect depression has on attention, motivation, and memory is quite clear, and thus its impact on school functioning is direct as well. An extreme change in academic success levels or defiance in finishing homework could mean mental exhaustion instead of plain old slothfulness. Depression seldom comes alone; usually, there are additional concerns present along with it.

  • Cognitive difficulties leading to what looks just like or exaggerates ADHD issues.
  • Academic perfectionism stemming from anxiety hidden beneath.
  • Difficulty with procrastination and overwhelming feelings even at simple daily chores.

Sorting through overlapping disorders needs expert guidance. When you are asking yourself, is my kid depressed? You should consider his actions both inside and outside the classroom setting.

Handling mental health issues on your own as a parent wears you down. There is absolutely zero shame in getting some advice ahead of an absolute emergency when it comes to your child. Once symptoms last longer than two weeks and start impacting day-to-day functioning at home and at school, it’s time to get help.

  • Local care: There are dedicated pediatric mental health services right in Las Vegas for families dealing with depression among their children.
  • Immediate Support: When suicidal thoughts enter the picture or you worry about signs of hopelessness, reach out to the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline via phone or text at 988 immediately.

Sometimes you just know when something different starts happening in your child, even if you cannot put your finger on it.

Depression during childhood years is completely treatable, but timely intervention has everything to do with success. Teaching your child to cope with intense emotions at such a young age will save them decades of suffering down the line. By seeking knowledge on behalf of your child, you are doing an amazing thing.

Arbor Wellness Mental Healthcare in Las Vegas specializes precisely in helping young people just like yours overcome the kinds of struggles that have you researching solutions. If something has changed in your child and you can’t name it, that’s reason enough to have it looked at.

Sources:
https://www.nimh.nih.gov/research/research-conducted-at-nimh/join-a-study/children/children-depression
https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/children-and-mental-health
https://www.unicef.org/india/parentingtips/handling-temper-tantrums
https://www.binghamton.edu/news/story/6322/depression-may-rewire-how-kids-pay-attention-to-emotional-faces
https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/understanding-depression.html
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11949899/
https://www.aap.org/What+is+anhedonia+in+children%3F
https://www.understood.org/en/articles/sadness-vs-depression-in-kids
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/14938-depression-in-children

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